Many physical and emotional changes occur during this time in a child’s life. But the biggest change of all might be in the way children think.
Little kids are focused on themselves and less concerned about what others think and feel. This changes around age 9 and children become much more focused on what others think about them. Fitting in with the group becomes more important.
Kids this age are growing more independent from their families. Their peer relationships become stronger and more complex. Peer pressure can start at this age. Kids aged 9-12 are also becoming more aware of their bodies as puberty approaches. Negative body image or eating problems can sometimes start around this time.
It’s normal for a child at this age to start turning away from their parents and more toward their friends. But children still need the support and guidance of their parents – even when they say they don’t! Children who feel good about themselves can better resist peer pressure and make positive choices.
To support your child during these years, start by understanding how they are changing physically and emotionally.
To support your child during these years, start by understanding how they are changing physically and emotionally.
Supporting Self-Confidence
To thrive, kids need to trust themselves and their abilities. Kids need to know and believe that they can handle it if they fail at something. We build confidence by coming back from failure, trying again, and continuing to build skills.
What can we do as parents to help kids feel capable and support their belief in their skills and talents?
Body Safety
It’s not an easy subject, but to prevent childhood sexual abuse, we need to talk to our kids about how to stay safe. As children get older, these conversations change.
Learn more about how to teach children between 6 and 11 years old about body safety, including topics like consent, body ownership, boundaries, secrets, and more.
Screen Time
Screens are a daily reality of our lives. The most important thing is that kids have balance in their lives. So in addition to some screen time, kids should also have plenty of sleep, time with family and friends, and playtime outside.
It’s also important that the content children consume is age-appropriate and high-quality.
Common Sense Media is a great resource. Find out whether a show, movie, or video game is appropriate for the age of your child, learn more about screen time recommendations, and more.
Puberty
Puberty is the time when a child’s body begins to develop and change as they move from being a kid to an adult. Puberty is a time of rapid physical, emotional, and sexual changes. It’s another topic that’s not always easy to discuss with our kids, but luckily there are great resources to help you start the conversation.
Learn more about the different concerns boys and girls might have about puberty, as well as information about gender identity and puberty. (Source: American Academy of Pediatrics)